Y’all Can Keep Lea Clark (And Melody Ellison, Too)

Lea Clark is just like us!

She lives in Lafayette Square, is a Cards fan, and loves Ted Drewes. She also loves photography and going on adventures. Her mom is renovating a house in North St. Louis and her dad teaches at Washington University.

imageBut Lea Clark is a doll. In fact, she’s the 2016 American Girl doll of the year.

Lea’s first two books are about her life-changing adventure to Brazil. The third is about her life right here in St. Louis.

Lea is a limited edition doll and will only be available through December of this year. The doll, the books, and accessories including a messenger bag, a rainforest house and matching outfits are all available at the American Girl doll store.

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Beyonce’s Bayou: In Formation with Serena Williams, Orishas, & Black Feminism

Beyonce’s Bayou: In Formation with Serena Williams, Orishas & Black Feminism

Part I: Initial Thoughts


Thank you, Queen Bey. On April 23rd, Beyonce released her visual album “Lemonade” on HBO and sent social media into a frenzy. Think pieces and critiques were everywhere and a large majority of them made no sense at all. I made sure to take time, write notes and form coherent thoughts before I shared ANYTHING. Lemonade was such a heavy creation that rushed think pieces and articles couldn’t possible be valuable. Finally, I was able to figure out what I wanted to say and how I wanted to say it. Here it is:

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For Black Girls Who Got In Formation When Hot Sauce Wasn’t Enough: On Beyonce, Formation & The Black Panthers


BREAKING NEWS: Beyonce is Black. Not only that, but she has also just given us the Third F of Feminism: Flawless, Feeling Myself and Formation. With the video release of her new song, Formation, Beyoncé denounced the “exceptional negro” image that has been placed upon her by mass media in order to give Black people, specifically women, an empowerment anthem worthy of several covers, marching band renditions and majorette team performances. The moment she sat on top of the New Orleans police car & submerged into the abyss, we knew that Bey was determined to make a statement. Beyonce has informed the whole entire world that she too, is a Black woman who is dealing with the subconscious effects of racially motivated hatred and violence. She has taken it upon herself to remind everyone that despite her mysterious aura and respectable success, she is still Black, proud and conscious of the world she lives in. The recent discourse surrounding Beyonce has made me proud to be a member of the #Beyhive and above all, a Black woman. The hatred for Beyonce, and consequently all Black women is sickening, palpable and just frightening. Everyone loves to scream about supporting Black women “at all costs”, “no matter what”, until that Black woman is such a huge celebrity that her humanity is questioned and she is stripped of her agency.



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Beware of The Hotep


If you’ve ever interacted with Black Twitter or in fact are a part of Black Twitter, chances are you’ve seen, you know or a you are a Hotep Nigga. Being a Hotep Nigga means you have a certain “fake deep” way of policing Black women while pretending to care about their well-being. See, many hoteps hate the word nigga (and love false etymology so they prefer to be called ‘Negus’) and by referring to them as a nigga, they feel attacked and belittled… you know, kind of how they treat everyone else. Hotep is the kemetic word for “peace”, so referring to their online community as “Hotep Niggas” completely makes a mockery of them and what they “stand for”, which is exactly what they deserve. [This is an “informal” post, maybe even a rant in some ways but alas: here it is. Beware of the Hotep.]

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#ByeLinda: Black Girl Magic Saved My Life


These days, the topic of Black Girl Magic has been everywhere and while it may seem like most people have soaked up the black girl empowerment movement, one woman didn’t take to kindly to it and called “bullshit” immediately.

Dr. Linda Chavers, is a “writer, teacher, and scholar of 20th century7407983 American and African American literature with specializations in race and visual culture.” According to her website, her “research interests include southern literature, postmodernism, and fiction.” Her site also boasts that Dr. Chavers holds a B.A. in Race and Gender from New York University’s Gallatin School of Individualized Study (magna cum laude). She obtained her M.A. in English and her Ph.D. in African American Studies from Harvard University in 2013. She has also spoken on Ferguson and #Black Lives Matter at the National Cathedral School for Girls, The School of Visual Arts in New York City, and The University of New Hampshire.

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Rape Kits, Race, & Ray Ray: Discussing The Deeper Implications of The Bill Cosby Scandal


Rape culture refers to society’s systematic attitudes and actions regarding consent, rape, and the victims of rape or sexual assault. These attitudes lead to the normalization, excusal, and tolerance of sexual harassment, assault, rapist behavior, and rape itself. Rape culture is reinforced by media, law enforcement, and is perpetuated and upheld by society. The disregard for consent and blatant victim blaming that are the main issues within rape culture create a society in which rape is not always seen as rape, and victims’ personal decisions and actions are blamed for “getting them raped” when the blame should fall on the perpetrator.

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Happy New Year! (And Welcome Back!)

Welcome Back To SecretsThatSell!

My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace with exactly who and what I am. To take pride in my thoughts, my appearance, my talents, my flaws and to stop this incessant worrying that I can’t be loved as I am. – Anais Nin


I’m so, so happy to finally be back on my blog. I spent the last portion of 2015 reflecting and recuperating. It was a long, rocky ride. It’s safe to say that while I’m not fully prepared for 2016, I have made very important decisions about how I am choosing to move forward. Today, I want to share a few things:

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